Online dating doesn’t have to be awful. Seriously.
But it will if you continue to think about it like this:
“I guess this is fine.”
“I have no idea what else to put here.”
“Whatever. Online dating sucks anyway.”
It’s easy to be a ‘this sucks’ person. We hear it all the time. But maybe online dating isn’t the whole problem. Maybe you just don’t feel that great about what you’re putting out there.
Something changes when you actually like your profile. You feel more confident. More intentional. And yes, dating becomes more fun.
We think it’s time you sat down with a woman. We’ll get to know the guy behind the profile, look at yours together, talk about what we see, and help you publish something you’re actually excited about.
Put a little effort into it.
Effort is attractive.
We notice.
The 3 things to get right.
This is not about making you appealing to more women. It’s about making you recognizable to the right one.
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“I cherish my family and love being a great dad.”
This is very likely true. It’s also true for 90% of the male population with children. This answer only tells us you’re a family man.“My daughter and I make breakfast for dinner once a week. She picks the pancake toppings… the fun never fails!”
We know you’re a girl dad. You like special moments and creating memories. You seem sweet and fun, and that you don’t take yourself too seriously. And now I’m wondering what the strangest topping has been… See what I did here?The interesting part is in the details. That’s what we’re looking for. Just be careful, not too many. There is the right balance.
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We will spend a good amount of time talking about this in person. Photos are something specific to a man’s vibe and interests, and we need you to show that.
In the meantime, here is some general advice.
Professional photos are not the right approach.
The bathroom mirror photo has to go. Google how to a take a full body shot.
While I fully support you having irrational fears, there is no reason to use valuable real estate telling us that yours is snakes, sharks, or heights. They aren’t even irrational.
This is a sensitive one: Your dog may stay in ONE photo. But the dog doesn’t get its own portrait. And we know he is your best friend. We’ve all known since the 1700s.
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Your profile should feel like one person all the way through.
The photos, prompts, tone, and details should all add up to a pretty clear picture of the man someone is actually going to meet.
You don’t need to sound more exciting, more adventurous, more successful, more hilarious, or more anything than you actually are.
Because the goal isn’t to make everybody want to meet you.
The goal is to give someone enough information to recognize you.
One Service. One Price.
A new profile you can use immediately.
$250
The goal is simple: an online dating profile that tells a better story about who you really are. And one that makes you more confident. Not overly polished. Not generic. And definitely not written to make you sound like somebody else.
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We meet in person for an hour and a half.
We’ll talk about your life, your personality, what matters to you, what makes you laugh, and what you’d actually like someone to understand about you.
Then we’ll go through your current dating profile together. It’s important we don’t do this first.
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We’ll go through the photos you already have and figure out which ones show you best. It may simply be a matter of choosing a stronger first photo, changing the order, cropping something differently, or making a simple lighting adjustment.
If you could use a couple new photos and/or selfies, we’ll make it happen. Professional photography may be good for one photo, but natural is always better.
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This is where getting to know you really matters. We’ll rewrite your prompts based on our conversation so they actually sound like you.
They should be specific.
They should be easy to respond to.
And ideally, they should give the right person a reason to pause. That connection is the point.
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You’ll walk out of there more confident with a new and improved profile.